How is Grandma Ruth’s identity shaped as a result of her experience at her friend’s home?

She was deeply secretive about her long life.

Explanation:

Reasons:

- Daphne Hampstead was 39 when she fled her home in Sydney's west in 1958

- She left behind her sometimes violent older husband Sidney and eight children  

- Letters from Daphne to Sidney and one their daughters arrived two days later  

- Daphne changed her name and her birth date to make herself six years     younger

- She had two long, loving relationships and died in Queensland in 2007 aged 89  

- Private investigator discovered missing Daphne Hampstead was Daphne Jones

- One of Daphne's new granddaughters, 40, was shot dead in Brisbane last year

the word that best matches the meaning of the expression "went to the big ocean" is died.

the goldfish died, which is why the father looks at the children mournfully. the "big ocean" is the father's way of saying fish heaven. he could have just said that the goldfish died, but this way, the children imagine the fish in a bigger, better place instead of just picturing a dead fish.

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