When I look at a table, do I unavoidably think, oh, it's flat on top, it's brown, it's got four legs: without having any choice in the matter? Does that make it seem like objects have too much control of our minds?

no its just an observation. you won't obsess over a table by looking at it.

if you look at a table, you won't really think about it.

maybe if you are looking for a place to eat, then you will sit at a table

if you are looking to buy a table, then maybe the color, price and sturdiness of the table come to mind.

but there is no control that objects like a table can have over your mind

unless looking for good tables is part of you profession, then the object will have control since its a priority

answer; role-taking;